Offering insight

I was lucky enough to be exposed to the Priciples of Health Realization in 1996. It was a gift while employed with Ethicon
Endo-Surgery which is a part of Johnson and Johnson. I was part of a group who traveled to LaConner Washington and listened to George Pransky speak of the the Priciples of Health Realization which at that time was called Psychology of Mind.

One result of my exposure to Health Realization, and the peace it offers to those who are open to it, was a desire to share this truth with others so that they could experience the same peace. However, as you know from my previous post people don't grow as a result of sharing opinions or insights but rather by getting their own insights. So, I had this new understanding, waiting for an opportunity where someone might be open to hearing about it.

As it turned out, I got into a discussion with a woman who was going through a challenging divorce. Many issues in the divorrce proceedings had been decided. But still unresolved was the issue of her husbands pension. Simply put, she wanted some and he didn't want to give her any. As a result, their interactions were taking place in the courtroom where she had been experiencing severe, aggressive questioning by his attourney. Sadly, the manner of the questioning spoke to the heart of her insecurity and was effective in putting her on edge.

She was dreading her upcoming appointment with the witness stand when we got together to talk. As she spoke I saw two different ways in which she could respond. First, she could take what is a fairly standard approach of using coping strategies to deal with the insecurity that she felt. She did have another opion however. The second option is to look at the source of the "aggressive" questioning I know there are many sources that address coping strategies so I will deal with the second more unique approach.

I honestly wondered about the effect the questioning was having on her state of mind. I have found that when are insecure we tend to take EVERYTHING personally. We look for hidden meanings in words and phrases. We attach negative meanings to things. When faced with a choice of interpretations, we choose the one that is most deliterious to ourselves and our situation.

When we are calm, peaceful and relaxed, we are able to gain a larger perspective. We see that