Most people think that in able to change...something, you need to try. In this post I will try to explain the premise of grace, as it applies to oneself, and how grace is the key towards positive change. Humanity has been sold a bill of goods when it comes to making changes in ones personal habits. The ideas of accountability loom large in order for us to initiate and especially to continue habits that are outside of our normal routine.
If you do not exercise, then conventional wisdom says that you should start exercising with someone else and make sure to tell others so that they can keep you accountable. It sounds like alot of guilt to me and maybe it works, for a while. Maybe it works for a long while. But I just don't believe that the best way to make changes in my life are by guilt or having someone else parent me to keep me on the straight and narrow.
I firmly believe that if I am engaged in an unhealthy habit it is because I personally do not yet understand that I have an alternative to that behavior when I am faced with the urge to undertake that habit. Therefore, if I am lazy, overeating, underexercising, overdrinking it is because I do not, in the moment, see the possibility of not doing so.
Now, first let me say that the last statement I made can be pretty tough to accept. It puts me and only me as the determiner of my behavior. It takes away the excuses of addiction and lack of motivation as reasons for my behavior. Many people are not willing to put the responsibility for their actions squarely on their own shoulders, and therefore there is a huge industry just waiting to help people deal with what I would call perceived addictions and motivational issues. This post is not for them
This post is for those of you who either are tired of dealing with your "addictions and motivational issues" or have not found freedom from those issues.
If you are still with me then I can offer you hope above accountability, the 12 steps or any rewards or punishments. The answer is inside of you. Inside you lives a goodness, a power, a wisdom which is unbelievably stronger than any addiction or issue you are dealing with. This deeply resident health is willing and waiting to provide all the answers you need to all the issues you face in life. Now, you might ask, "Why haven't I heard any of the advice this health has to offer?" The reason is that it has a quiet voice which is easily overwhelmed by your own thoughts. So when you are trying to change, thinking about changing, or even considering thinking about whether you should change, you leave no room to hear the voice of your health. The only way to hear your quiet voice is to be calm in your thinking. This calmness, serinity and peace is the opening your health needs to lead you on the path to change.